2nd Key of 7 Keys to Creating Great Relationships

Key 2: Discover your passion.

I have been researching and speaking on the topic of passion for close to 20 years, and have pursued my passions for over 50 years.

What is ‘passion’? My definition is this: “Passion is a source of unlimited energy from your soul, or spirit, or heart that enables you to produce extraordinary results”.

From my research and my face-to-face workshops with many thousands I have proven that most people in Australia and around the world are not passionate about their work. Yet, I am deeply convinced that everyone has passion. The tragedy is that far too few people have the courage to discover and pursue their passion.

That is why I do the work that I do: I believe the world will become a better place if more of us are willing to discover and to pursue our respective passions, without harming others in the process.

If you are passionate, you immediately raise your personal energy and become far more attractive to other human beings. As the law of gravity states: the inter-attractiveness of a body to another is determined by its mass, and your passion increases your metaphysical mass. You will stand out from the crowd, and others will notice you more readily.

You will thereby attract more people into your life, thus increasing the chances of entering into relationships that become great.

 

Charles B Kovess LL.B. (Hons), LL.M., MAICD, MAITD
Australasia’s Passion Provocateur©
Certified Speaking Professional
www.kovess.com

“1st KEY OF 7 KEYS TO CREATING GREAT RELATIONSHIPS”

The passion, courage and willingness to be true to yourself

Trying to appeal to everybody is an unwinnable game! Yet, to whom will you appeal? This is almost impossible to answer, since every person experiences life uniquely, through the filters of their unique subconscious minds. And it is our subconscious minds that enable us, indeed drive us, to create our beliefs and behaviours.

As Wayne Dyer so aptly said: “You will see it when you believe it”, rather than the usual saying of “You will believe it when you see it”. It is your beliefs that enable you to see.

Therefore, the most effective strategy is to be true to your own beliefs and values, and to be true to how you wish to live your life; those with whom you come into contact can then make their own choices on whether they are attracted to you or not. You become ‘authentic’.

Of course, it takes courage to be authentic. You are likely to upset or alienate others who want you to be something else, to please them, to help them get what they want, regardless of what you want. If you are passionate about having great relationships, your passion becomes a fuel for this courage.

Your authenticity is a powerful magnet. You become a metaphorically bigger person because you are not giving away your power. Of course, this process requires you to be passionate and willing to be true to yourself and this will help you to access the necessary courage.

Therefore, be courageous: this is how humans grow. We cannot grow by staying in our comfort zones. You will be amazed by who you attract into relationship with you.

 

 

Charles B Kovess LL.B. (Hons), LL.M., MAICD, MAITD
Australasia’s Passion Provocateur©
Certified Speaking Professional

www.kovess.com

7 Keys to Creating a Great Relationship When You are Time Poor

If you are successful in your business or profession, you are probably ‘busy’. In fact, you are probably ‘busy and stressed’, or ‘as busy as a one-armed builder in Syria’!

Almost everyone I meet today, when I ask, genuinely, ‘how are you?’, reply ‘busy, too busy’. Lawyers, accountants, plumbers, doctors, young and old, quote this familiar refrain.

So, how do you create that great relationship with all these other pressures demanding your attention? Here are 7 key strategies to provoke your thinking.

 

1. Be willing to be true to yourself.

Stop trying to appeal to everybody: you won’t! Yet, to whom will you appeal? This is almost impossible to answer, particularly since every person experiences life uniquely, through the filters of their subconscious minds. And it is our subconscious minds that enable us, indeed drive us, to create our beliefs and behaviours.

Therefore, the most effective strategy is to be true to your own beliefs and values, and to be true to how you wish to live your life; those with whom you come into contact can then make their own choices on whether they are attracted to you or not. You become ‘authentic’.

2. Discover your passion.

I have been researching and speaking on the topic of passion for almost 20 years, and have pursued my passions for over 50 years. What is ‘passion’? It is a source of unlimited energy from your soul, or spirit, or heart that enables you to produce extraordinary results.

Most people in Australia are not passionate about their work, but everyone has passion. The tragedy is that not many people have the courage to discover and pursue their passion.

If you are passionate, you immediately raise your personal energy and become far more attractive to other human beings. You will stand out from the crowd, and others will notice you more readily.

3. Be willing to simplify your life.

There is too much ‘stuff’ in our lives that does not fulfil us, nurture us, or give us lasting joy.

When you discover your passion, you are more able to decide what is important to you. You can discard unnecessary complexities that you are hoarding, or pursuing, ‘just in case’ they might make you happy. Simplifying your life will create time for you to devote to a relationship that has been created because you are being true to you.

4. Be willing to be vulnerable.

I learnt a long time ago that when vulnerability meets vulnerability, it creates intimacy. Intimacy is the hallmark of a great relationship.

When you are vulnerable, open, honest, courageous, and true to yourself, the other person is more likely to feel your essence and respond similarly. Then intimacy can be created, and you need to spend less time proving your commitment to the relationship: the other person becomes less demanding of your time because the feeling of intimacy is a powerful glue that holds the relationship.

5. Allow others to be true to themselves.

Let go of requiring other people to behave in ways that suit you. If you are going to be true to yourself, then allow others to do the same. That way, you can more quickly decide whether you are truly attracted to another person, or whether it’s their ‘act’ that has drawn you in. You waste less time!

6. Adopt the concept of ‘Parallel Thinking’.

Edward de Bono’s book ‘Parallel Thinking’ beautifully explores our 3000-year tradition of Western philosophical thought that proposes there is ‘truth’ to be discovered in any issue. De Bono, however, says there are often times when competing ideas or thoughts can run ‘in parallel’ because there is no truth: for example, in designing a new outfit or a new building.

By allowing parallel thoughts to run in your relationships, you become much more flexible, leading to less conflict about what is right, wrong, true or untrue, and you become much more lovable and fun to be with.

7. Be willing to learn the principles of time management.

I have worked with many time poor executives over the past 15 years, in both corporate groups and as their executive coach. I am appalled by the quality of time management skills of most of them!

Become a master of your time, and you won’t be so busy! If you invest your time in developing these skills, you will enjoy a remarkable reduction in stress and a remarkable increase in your experience of the many joys of life.

Charles B Kovess LL.B. (Hons), LL.M., MAICD, MAITD
Australasia’s Passion Provocateur©
Certified Speaking Professional
www.kovess.com

“PASSION, ENTREPRENEURS AND ECONOMIC GROWTH”

Your country’s economic growth depends on successful entrepreneurs!

And I believe that entrepreneurs who are passionate will be more likely to succeed than those who are not. Passion is a source of energy and of courage that enables the entrepreneur to take the inevitable blocks to progress and overcome them.

Being an entrepreneur certainly requires courage, particularly if you take the route that I did when I left the legal profession. The courage is required to face the fears of failure and of financial challenges, not to mention the loss of status from those around you who think you are crazy!

Entrepreneurs drive economic growth because they create new products and services, and discover innovative or creative ways to improve productivity and to reduce waste. They are often described as crazy, because they are told what they seek to do is impossible.

The ‘economy’ is actually people being in motion, harnessing their energy to work physically or mentally to add value. The more people that there are out there adding value, the bigger will be the economy.

When you have lots of energy, because you are passionate, you are able to add more value.

I am a member of TiE Melbourne, one of the world’s largest organisations that supports and promotes entrepreneurs. As an organisation, it supports the spiritual value of entrepreneurship, not just the financial value.

Please visit www.melbourne.tie.org to find out more about this global organisation with over 60 chapters all around the world.

 

Charles B Kovess LL.B. (Hons), LL.M., MAICD, MAITD
Australasia’s Passion Provocateur©
Certified Speaking Professional
www.kovess.com

“WHY AREN’T YOU PASSIONATE ABOUT YOUR HEALTH?”

Are you healthy? How would you know? How would you measure this?

Most people do not have a definition of health: they simply say they are ‘healthy’ if they are not sick at that moment.

But there is a wide range of health available, and I encourage you to decide what your definition is going to be.

I further encourage you to choose to be passionate about being as healthy as you can possibly be! After all, what is more important than your health?

Here is an example. If you created a health scale of 1 to 100, with 1 being almost dead, and 100 being so healthy you could not improve, then 51 would be the state of ‘no present known sickness’.

Yet, how would you be functioning if you were 51 rather than 95, both of them states of ‘not sick, therefore healthy’? There would be a huge difference.

On this scale, what is your true answer to the question ‘Are you healthy?’

I have crafted a definition of ‘health’ that is most useful and I commend it to you. It is based on the Hungarian word for ‘health’ which literally means ‘wholeness’.

My definition is this:

“Health is the unique optimal balance for each person of mind, body and spirit elements in that person’s life”.

When you strive to improve the balance of mental, physical and spiritual elements in your life, you will continue to become healthier, moving from perhaps 51 on the scale all the way up to 100!

The benefits of moving up the scale include:

  • More energy
  • Greater productivity
  • Better relationships
  • More money
  • Spending less money on medical complications
  • More fun!

Choose to be passionate about your health!

 

Charles B Kovess LL.B. (Hons), LL.M., MAICD, MAITD
Australasia’s Passion Provocateur©
Certified Speaking Professional
www.kovess.com